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Original Comment:  From on March 12, 2010 1:07 am

How should you introduce the idea of anal sex to your wife? and thanks for the tip about the spanking it will come in very HANDY…


Most men fantasize about anal sex. For some reason most of society sees it as “tabu”. As well most women hear the word anal and immediately associate it with pain. However, anal sex can be a wonderful experience for both partners. The trick is getting her to agree to try anal. And that means… there is something you can do to persuade your better half to engage in the rear entry intercourse. 

For the woman, anal sex can add another exciting level to her sexual experience. How can you convince her of this? First of all, you must be prepared to spend some time slowly working into it. Anal sex is not very comfortable if you just go straight to penetrating the anus with your penis. (Most importantly, you should never just put your penis in her anus without her approval—this could end any chance you may have had in getting her to try it because without lubrication and preparation, injury can occur)


Pick up a porn that has anal sex in it. You can buy one at any adult store, online adult stores, pawn shops that sell porn and yes, you can even rent one so you are not spending money on something you may not want to watch again.  While watching it with your partner, watch their face and body language to see how they react to it. Do they like it or do they ask you to turn it off? Is the sex more intense between you that night? If so it may be that they were turned on by watching the anal sex on the video. Next time you have sex you can take it one step further.


When performing oral sex, venture away from the norm. Move your hand down by her anus and watch her reaction. Does she move towards you? Try inserting your figure into her rectum. If she doesn’t object and doesn’t move away she may be open to more exploration. Working anal stimulation into your sexual encounters over the course of multiple lovemaking sessions is the best way to start. sensitivity from oral sex will help make this a pleasurable experience. You can even pay special attention to her anal area with your mouth. If you are comfortable, let your tongue wander downward from her clitoris to her anus. (Remember that if fingers or toys are inserted into the rectum should not be inserted into the vagina.)


When having intercourse make sure that there is plenty of lubrication. Pull out right before her orgasm and press your **** against her anus. If she objects then stop. If she doesn’t object  then push in a little further. Tell her how good it feels for you. If she still doesn’t stop you and she appears to be enjoying it ask her if it is okay for you to push in a little further. At this point she should be giving you a yes or no. If she says no don’t be discouraged. The subject is now in the open. You can always try again.

This pre-play is important for the woman. It gives her a chance to realize and become comfortable with the increased stimulation and excitement she gets from touch around her anus. This awareness can lead to more interest in anal stimulation during sex, and eventually, interest in having anal sex. All of this should be done with extra attention paid to her reactions. Stop if she responds negatively in any way. If she feels like she is being forced to do something she doesn’t want to do, she may never let you near her back door again. If she responds positively to these things, you can move onto the next step: penetration. It is important to remember that the anus does not make it’s own lubrication! You must use a lubricant at this point.


Anal Sex Tips

So you and your partner want to explore anal sex. Here are a few important tips to get you started so it is a pleasurable experience for both of you.

*** Start by exploring yourself ***

Masturbating helps you get to know your body, what you like, and what is comfortable for you. Knowing your body and what is exciting and what is not pleasant will only make you more comfortable when sharing anal exploration with your partner.

*** Communicate with your partner ***

 This is very important because the more comfortable you feel with your partner, the more relaxed you will be and the more enjoyable it will become. Talk ahead of time how you will go about your anal play and what makes both of you comfortable.

*** Lube, lube, lube! ***

 It’s been said that when you think you’ve used too much lube, put on some more! Using a lubricant will make penetrating the anus much easier. Remember, it doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina. There are lubricants made specifically for anal sex that will help make it a pleasurable experience. Water-based lubricants are the best, as latex-based lubricants can degrade latex condoms and toys. Be sure not to use numbing lubricants—pain is your body‘s way of telling you to slow down or stop.

*** Start small ***

 Begin with a well-lubed finger or a narrow vibrator. There are even sets of graduated cylinders that can be used to “ease into” stretching the anus for anal sex.

*** Find a comfortable position ***

There is no right or wrong answer here, it can be any position you feel most comfortable in. The more relaxed you are the easier it will be.

*** Hygiene ***

This is an important topic! You should never put something into your vagina that has been in your anus. Use a condom for anal sex (even on your sex toys) and then remove it once you are done and replace with a new condom for further sex play. You can get a serious infection if you disregard this. Also, remember that you can get STD’s through anal sex—so you should always use a condom no matter what!

*** Go slow ***

This is a good idea…very, very slow. Communicate (see #2) with your partner if you need him or her to go slower or if you are ok. Taking it slow in the beginning will only make it more enjoyable and more likely for you to have a positive anal sex experience.

*** Clear the way ***

For some of you this may sound gross, but you should make sure you’ve pooped the day you want to have anal sex – this is for obvious reasons. Some people suggest laxatives or enemas, but you have to determine which is right for you. Using an enema prior to anal intercourse can irritate the sensitive tissue in the rectum increasing the risk of further irritation or even an infection.

*** Wash up ***

Make sure to wash your hands and toys, anything that has touched the anus, so as not to spread germs.

The bottom line is that anal sex can be a new sexual frontier for you to enjoy with your partner making sex more exciting and diverse. Be safe and Enjoy! (Source



  1. Thanks, I’ll try this approach when my wife comes to bed, hey had this approach worked in your anal pleasure?

    • Nope, Sorry, I haven’t experienced the “wild side”, and don’t have any plans to. Maybe you should talk to your wife about this, see where her head is at.

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